Today’s Thought: The First Law of Living!

Posted on 07/11/2022 by mscyprah

The best quality of life comes from one simple but powerful ingredient: self-love. This one element has a knock-on effect on so many other things like happiness, contentment, positivity, and achievement, to begin with. When we love ourselves, we give permission for others to love us too, to appreciate our strengths and weaknesses, and to enhance that sense of worth and significance we all seek.

Self-love is crucial because it leads to a love of our bodies and talents. It also frees us to stop focusing upon what we lack, while we accept ourselves as the beautiful and wondrous beings we are. When we love ourselves we are likely to nurture our bodies, to be proud of who we are and to nurture others, too, for who they are.

How much do you value and appreciate yourself?

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Today’s Thought: Understanding The Use of Stereotypes

Posted on 17/10/2022 by mscyprah

There is no harm in using stereotypes to make sense of an unfamiliar situation, especially if we accept that there is always an exception to any rule or obvious pattern. The brain tends to work from the panoramic to the microscopic picture. Stereotypes become discriminatory and unacceptable when we still choose to use them, even when we have the knowledge and information that disputes them.

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Today’s Thought: Dealing With Difference

Posted on 12/10/2022 by mscyprah

How do you feel about difference? Comfortable? Welcoming? Accepting? Fearful? Anxious?

Often when we fear difference we forget that we too are different to others who are not like us! It seems that our level of confidence determines how we treat others, so that the worse we feel about ourselves, and he lower our self-esteem, the more we are likely to feel vulnerable and afraid, fearing anything unfamiliar or unlike us.

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Today’s Thought: The Power of Sensitivity to Others

Posted on 03/10/2022 by mscyprah

Sensitivity is such a powerful concept because it can make such a difference to anither person’s experience. When we care we are sensitive to the desires and concerns of those who matter to us, in particular, and of strangers in our world who might feel lost and at sea. We care how they feel; we give them our best and they would do all that in return, too. Mutual giving and respect make up reciprocity which is the greatest source of happiness between a couple.

Thinking for our partners, being sensitive to their moods and being empathetic to their anxieties all help to make a relationship truly pleasurable. When we are thoughtful we value the things that matter to our dates/partners; we give them space to develop their unique selves; we accept them completely as they are without conditions and allow them to be human without judging or criticising them. When we are sensitive to, and thoughtful about, others we give them room to breathe, we value them daily and celebrate their presence. Thoughtfulness allows couples to treat one another as special and to put each other first at every opportunity.

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Today’s Thought: Showing True Respect

Posted on 26/09/2022 by mscyprah

It is natural to fear difference until we become familiar with it as we are wired to protect our own. That is why RESPECT starts with the self. If we care about ourselves, we tend not to be so fearful of others because it increases our natural empathy. However, we cannot really respect what we don’t understand, especially if it seems to go against our own values and culture. Hence why there is so much suspicion, mistrust and conflict where there is ignorance and lack of exposure to difference.

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Today’s Thought: Personal Realities

Posted on 21/09/2022 by mscyprah

It is easy to believe that everyone else shares the way we see our environment and others. But the reason for conspiracy theories, for example, emerges from fear and a lack of self-confidence taking refuge in group resistance. We fear difference so much, we want everyone to be like us, yet we are all governed by our sex, gender, colour, culture, religion, ability, etc., anything that sets us apart. For anyone to share our individual reality, they would have to experience our life, exactly the way we do. And that is almost impossible, with it being so dependent on our culture and experiences.

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Today’s Thought: How To Gain Respect

Posted on 15/09/2022 by mscyprah

Respect is not something we can demand. Respect is given freely once it is earned. Hence you cannot have respect if you give none to others. But respect starts with the self.

We cannot earn the respect of others if we have no respect for ourselves. We cannot expect others to love what we reject if we have no love for ourselves, and we cannot expect value from others if we give ourselves no value. Self-love is the key to personal value, feelings of worth, inclusion, significance and ultimately respect. If you love yourself, you will learn to recognise when people respect and value you, rather than just tolerating you. But you have to value yourself first before that can happen. the feeling that a person respects and cares for you; and you really matter to them.

One way to ensure respect for your values and person is to start appreciating others more. Reduce the judgement and criticism and increase the kindness and support. Be a FRIEND to others and they will want to be friends to you, too, and to respect and affirm you.

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Today’s Thought: How Much Do You Know Yourself?

Posted on 09/09/2022 by mscyprah

Knowing yourself is crucial to the quality of your life, as it prevents ambiguity in your choices, and disappointments in your expectations. For example, when it comes to choosing a date, some people may say they want ‘an independent-thinking, self-directed partner, who is successful in his own career’. In reality, they want someone who will take care of them or be the parent they never had. After all, when we love someone, we do not tie that love to the size of their wallet, or expect financial contribution as a condition of our love, precisely because material things can disappear in an instant, as unexpected natural disasters have starkly demonstrated.

We often deceive ourselves, as well as others, in painting that false personal image but, while we can deceive ourselves forever, we can only deceive some of the people some of the time. All too soon, we get found out, and most likely when we least expect it. Just be yourself, warts and all. Being yourself is usually the most attractive part of you! You simply emphasise that uniqueness.

The person for you will be the one who accepts you fully. The minute someone new starts to tell you how you should dress, for example, it is a short step from dictating your life in other ways, making you over into their ideal, not accepting you as you are. If you know who you are, you will wish to be that person, not a caricature of someone else’s dream.

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Today’s Thought: Finding The Greatest Love!

Posted on 06/09/2022 by mscyprah

It is easy to believe that once someone else loves us, we will be very happy ever after. But the greatest love is actually within us, often stifled and repressed by pain, hurt, self-loathing, dissatisfaction with our bodies, and relentless anxiety. Start the process of self discovery today, to find your greatest love – the one that guarantees real happiness.

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Today’s Thought: Being Generous With Love

Posted on 03/09/2022 by mscyprah

We seem to find it much easier to be cold, detached, unkind and even cruel to others than it is to be kind and loving to them. We even get embarrassed when people show us love, or pay us a compliment as though that is not something positive and enjoyable. Often we spend a long time in regret wishing we had said something loving to someone we cherished.

Yet love has the power to do so many things for us, especially to make us feel joyful, valued and life more meaningful. In fact, we can achieve far more in one day with just a little kindness and appreciation than we can in a long time with any other means.

Make someone’s day by sending some love their way!

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Today’s Thought: Finding a New Relationship

Posted on 01/09/2022 by mscyprah

So often we seek a new relationship beieving that once we find that ideal person, everything will be perfect and we’ll be very happy. However, any relationship starts with how we connect with ourselves, not with any other person. If we are uncomfortabe with our person, not happy with our mirror-image, and dislike ourselves, we will find it problematic connecting with others too.

Today’s Thought: The Importance of Sensitivity

Posted on 29/08/2022 by mscyprah

Sensitivity is at the core of how we treat others. Accepting the person as they are without wanting to change them to suit us; fully acknowledging their values, culture, identity and who they wish to be; valuing their contributions, opinions and inputs, genuinely listening to them and sharing their concerns. These are all essential elements of showing sensitivity to others. When we put ourselves and our needs first, and can only see our values, cultures and what matters to us, we are lacking great sensitivity to those we care for, and interact with, and are actually denying them respect, no matter what we might say to the contrary.

Most important, if we have no sensitivity towards the feelings of others, how can we genuinely expect our sensitivities to be respected and appreciated? Quite simply, if we wish respect for what we represent, value and cherish, unless we are prepared to give it, too, we cannot expect it in return.